…and there is blasting thunder in the night, and the soaking millionfooted rain, and one looks out at morning on a stormy sky, a broken wrack of cloud… Tom Woolfe: ‘Look Homeward Angel’
The rain started just before I got home from a Sunday afternoon drive with my adoptive parents Reg and Una. At some point during these time-honored jaunts we’d stop for beer and snacks at one of the many pubs that dot south-western England’s landscape. Maybe during this afternoon’s rest-stop Reg managed to down a sly noggin or two of something stronger than beer, because on the final leg home his attitude became pretty obstreperous. Suddenly he and I were loudly at each others throats. Reg was irate, saying that my driving was alarming mum, who tended to get nervous at speeds over fifty miles an hour anyway, bless her. When my dad opened his door to drag a foot on the road like some kind of brake I just about lost-it, but without missing a beat mum quickly got the situation de-fused.
Reg and Una lived in a nice little trailer park on the slopes of the ancient caldera which cradles the city of Bath. After they’d gone bustling indoors I sat brooding in my car. Six months earlier I’d dejectedly returned home after attempting to become a professional musician, for three years schlepping back and forth across Britain and western Europe with my band ‘Johnny, Mike And The Shades’. There had been real chances for success, though the details were kept from me at the time, ostensibly ‘for my own good’.
Together we were frequent performers on national radio, and at one point the up-and-coming entrepreneur Brian Epstein wanted to sign us up. But our manager, Cana Variety Agency supremo Jack Fallon, would only consider a straight swap for Epstein’s group The Beatles. Of course that didn’t happen, and resulting tensions between ourselves and Fallon put an end to that phase of my career. I regret not having the presence of mind at the time to get busy with something else, but I let disillusionment get the better of me.
Back home in Bristol the crash-pad I shared with my spiffy double Ludwig drum set was my folks’ motor home. On retiring from farming they’d bought it to take a six month road trip around England before settling down at the trailer park. Things were kind of tight in there. I got several months worth of work at a cabaret club with my uncle Graham’s outfit ‘The Harry Graham Orchestra’. The band basically provided musical wallpaper for drunk-dancing and buffoons to eat scampi and chips from little plastic baskets. But I also got to accompany top visiting acts like Chubby Checker and Selena Jones, plus a few highly unmemorable others.
It was a foul night though not particularly cold, and I was leaving home again; this time for good. As the deluge dumped on the parking lot I moved my drums from the motor home into my Mini wagon. I was driving out of the dismal parking lot without any planned goodbyes when my dad’s unmistakably stocky figure lurched into the light from my car’s headlamps. He’d been watching me load my gear, and like me was drenched to the skin as we stood hugging contritely in the rain.
I didn’t get away that night, but the following morning as mum fed me breakfast, hers and my lower lips quivered a little. The storm had blown over ahead of a clear and sunny day for my drive to the home of musical friends of mine a few miles outside of London.
A little back story: The world and me were at odds long before my first new name; there have been three of them besides my present one, itself a mixture of the others; all perfectly legal. I’ve had two mums, two dads and two very different families; three if you include the kids and staff at the orphanage.
Characterizing my natural parents’ behavior as abandonment wouldn’t be entirely fair in the light of their early death, firstly my mum from TB, after which dad let everything go including his own life. Decades later I have the patchwork emotions common to many grown-up abandoned infants. But all things considered I’m empowered by all that’s happened to me-‘blessed’ if you like, albeit at the cost of a few things I might like to have had.
If I got money for my most re-visited memory I’d buy us all lunch. It concerns my first punishment and a little girl playing quietly beside me in a sandpit, and no doubt struggling with her own bewilderment. I threw sand at her.
As a fellow three year old living at the orphanage in Broadstairs my erstwhile playmate couldn’t have merited such abuse, and a baby-sitting nurse delivered a no-nonsense lesson to that effect on my backside. Perhaps my spite was born after mother’s death from an idea that all females must be inherently cruel; an impression which the nurse’s spanking could have done little to correct.
I think I must have stopped breathing properly when mother went. With growing alarm that she was no longer there my breaths became ever more shallow, and a knot quickly formed in the spot where other babies’ solar plexus would be. The knot has only ever loosened at rare times when I’ve dared venture out of the panic-room inside my head.
My emotional injuries left me feeling as if I existed in an ethereal bubble. Solitude became familiar before I learned how to talk, and while other toddlers might clamor for attention I liked better to be left safely alone. I’d never have survived after mum’s death but for the selfless love of adoptive parents Reg and Una Rowney, and state-run child care, such as it was in the late nineteen-forties. I came to understand that life for orphans is about learning how to cope. All the world’s accumulated wisdom and psychobabble cannot seamlessly fix a child abandoned, in whatever circumstance.
Broadstairs, Kent, was a far cry from my south London home of Catford, which took a savage pounding from the Nazi war-machine. Evacuated in trains by the thousand, kids like me were sent to relative safety in the country; many being left with nothing to return to—if indeed they ever went back again.
My natural parents were a good looking couple: I have pictures. Mum Marjorie was an imposing and amiable woman; slim and pretty with long dark hair, which in my pictures she wore pinned up. She worked as a dog handler at Catford Stadium, and I think it’s there that typically dank evenings at dog racing events may have accelerated illness once Tuberculosis took hold.
Margie’s family felt she’d married ‘below herself’ once it became evident that handsome husband George was a womanizer with a penchant for booze. Never having become particularly close both families wouldn’t take me and older siblings Michael and Wendy, perhaps nervous about TB’s congenital nature.
Dad Attridge was a printer before joining the Territorial Army to spend the war on a Dulwich Common gun crew shooting at ‘doodlebug’ rockets. After mum’s death he left Mike in a private Boys Home on the south coast, promising to return for him and to collect Wendy and me once plans involving his ‘other’ woman were sorted. But their relationship ended abruptly and a deeply depressed George went on to die at his own parents’ home in Forest Hill.
Causes-of-death were given as the chronic kidney disease Nephritis and “complications from a wartime shrapnel wound”, but I wonder if George might have drunk himself into oblivion, and if a sympathetic family doctor could have written the death certificate to show something less stigmatic at the time than alcoholism.
Mike and Wendy were adopted by a couple almost twice our parents’ ages, while west-country farmers Reg and Una took me. Our homes were barely an hour’s drive apart, but from the little I saw of my siblings it might as well have been a thousand miles.
Miss Potter-otherwise known as my ‘ministry of pensions lady’-drove me in her little black car to my new home in the sleepy Somerset village of Churchill Green. New mum Una greeted us at the door and I immediately ran to put she and her ample skirts between Miss Potter and I; something which Una later said utterly endeared her to me. Michael’s and Wendy’s adoptions were also monitored by Miss Potter, who my brother remembers as a pleasant and mild-mannered young woman. Mike stayed in touch with her for several decades but to me she represented some things I wanted nothing more to do with.
The next seven years were both idyllic and problematic, in short the kind of life all children would enjoy in a perfect world. Picture-postcard springs turned into glorious summers and storybook autumns became chocolate box winters. Like owners of small farms anywhere Reg and Una weren’t exactly prosperous, but they ‘spoiled’ me nonetheless.
Old Farm was a sprawling group of buildings separated from a leafy country lane by a walled orchard. Fruit trees there provided not only apples for my new mum to bake into Sunday desserts smothered in syrup, but also literally stunning insights to the properties of gravity and inertia whenever I fell out of them. There too Bryan and I trapped yellow-jacket wasps in jam jars and destroyed them en-mass with great glee. Small boys can be brutal.
Four years older than me Bryan was Reg’s natural nephew whose own parents had died in the wartime bombing of Birmingham. With clear memories of them Bryan found bonding with Reg and Una difficult.
I envied the mealtime hubbub at friends’ houses, or perhaps I simply missed the feeding-frenzies of the orphanage. In stark contrast dining experiences at the farm were edgy affairs, at which I was effectively an only-child since Bryan was content to stay at boarding school and only ride the train home for end-of-term visits. Because of our similar emotional issues he and I didn’t get along particularly well at first, but I grew to truly admire him. After gaining several degrees at Oxford University he went on to have a long and successful career in pharmacology.
At any time other than Christmas our so-called Front Room was strictly off limits to me and whichever cousins might show up for weekend visits. It was a kind of family shrine where ‘the-good-furniture’ lived, together with iconic photographs of my adoptive progenitors in stiff poses. Still the smells of cream sherry and cigars take me back to celebrations there of Christmases past, as do the aromas of Plum pudding and custard, Sage and Onion Stuffing, Pine fronds, wax candles and mothballs.
I was about six on the day a small wooden effigy was passed back and forth along the pews at a Sunday meeting in the village chapel. A returned missionary nurse had brought it from Africa and come to talk about her work. I don’t know if she mentioned the kind of wood the figurine was carved from but its aroma fixed deeply in my mind. In the decades since I’ve caught rare whiffs of it on occasion, and, powered by memory alone, been whisked at faster-than-light speed back to the captivating moment I first smelled it.
The biggest of the farm’s meadows sloped gently down to its southern boundary, where a stream fed and drained a nearby pond. Ringed by willow trees it was a magical place I often visited with friends both real and imaginary.
When the weather was hot the stream water dwindled to a sorry trickle and the pond filled instead with fluid waste from our dairy herd. On the upwind side it didn’t smell too bad if left undisturbed, and with the shadows of willow branches braiding across the dark surface it was nevertheless a pretty spot. But barely beneath the liquid surface lay a depth of fetid muck.
Gordon was there; Bryan’s rotund friend from a nearby farm, and the Avery twins; friends of my own from their family farm down the road. Bryan and Gordon were older than the twins and I, which created a natural division in the gang; that and the fact that some of us saw Gordon as a bit of a creep. Once he’d led us all into my playroom, locked the door and demonstrated his newly discovered ability to masturbate, complete with squinty eyes and unabashed grunting.
At the edge of the pond was a fallen tree in an advanced stage of rotting. My pals enthusiastically assured me that lumberjack-style log rolling skills could be easily mastered by a bright young chap like me so I blithely hopped on. I had a fleeting glimpse of my own feet framed by willow branches against the bluest of blue skies, before plunging head first into the pond.
I must have looked like a pint-sized ‘Creature From The Black Lagoon’ when I surfaced what seemed like a couple of millennia later. The guys all but wet themselves as they stumbled around laughing, while I stood in the middle of the pond gulping lungfuls of bad air.
I struggled from the sucking morass and ran back to the house bawling every step of the way, followed across the endless meadow by Bryan, Gordon and my former friends the Avery twins, all positively stupefied with mirth.
Perhaps a tailwind wafted the stink of my effluent-soaked gallop ahead of me, though it could have been my own mortified screams, the other guys’ insane cackling or possibly some kind of mum-radar that tipped her off. In any event by the time I reached the house she was already bucketing hot water into a tin washtub right there on the back porch. Within seconds she had me standing in it naked and was scrubbing my bare skin with the hardest bristle brush this side of the black stump. Shaking with rage and embarrassment I wished the twins-and most especially Gordon-would laugh even harder so their stupid hearts might just stop.
In his own quiet way Reg was an inspired man. He’d often bring me old gramophones, case-clocks and other contraptions he’d buy on mid-week trips to local livestock markets; the kinds of thing that have since become valuable antiques. I remember Una saying, “Oh, Reg; you know he’s just going to take that to pieces and ruin it.” To which Reg said nothing. He knew I would indeed soon have it torn apart, but it was okay because he understood that with my natural curiosity I’d someday figure out how things worked and be able to put them back together. From that wise insight grew something which has saved me lots of time, hassle and money: An aptitude for fixing things.
Though long since demolished, at one time a windmill had stood at one end of the house to grind the farm’s grain. Dad then hired a threshing machine for a couple of days each summer and it seemed like all the locals showed up to help bring in the harvest. Women carried simple meals of freshly baked bread, apples, cheeses, onions and flagons of rough cider out to the fields, and after grain sacks had finally been sewn shut and stacked ready for trucking to the mill dad shot a pig right between the eyes. The men dressed and spit-roast it over a fire in the farmyard and we all celebrated; men, women, kids and dogs.
For Good Queen Betty’s coronation in the early fifties my folks cranked life up a notch and bought a TV… the first one in the village. The parlor at Old Farm was jam-packed with neighbors sipping tea as they ooh-ed and ah-ed over the grainy monochrome images and puny sound.
After the initial awe about television’s advent subsided I usually managed to behave well enough that I was allowed to stay up on Saturday nights to watch ‘The Variety Show’ or ‘Cafe Continental’; my introduction to showbiz.
Other than Radio Luxembourg from continental Europe nobody was putting much new music out there in the ether. Then Independent Television’s start-up in nineteen fifty-five ended the BBC’s monopoly of the UK airwaves.
The little radio I’d soldered together from a kit bought through a comic book ad barely picked up Luxembourg’s feeble signal, but as I listened under the blankets to the distorted sound on my single earphone I was about as excited as a farm boy could get with his pajamas on.
In nineteen sixty-four the rogue ‘Radio Caroline’ started broadcasting from an old light ship moored off England’s south-east coast, giving a big charge to public radio. Skiffle music was a ‘big thing’ then, with its washboards, jugs, tea chest basses and kazoos; that and ‘Trad’… a form of jazz more akin to Dixieland than any other, and hugely popular with the college-set.
Free-radio deejays were less bound by restrictive play lists so listeners were treated to increasingly more music from across the-big-pond. America’s Country & Western music styles got more exposure, along with Rhythm & Blues and Soul music. Brit musicians were quickly all-over-it and new sounds were being made in Working Men’s Clubs, church hall dances and boy scout fund-raisers everywhere.
In it’s hey-day Old Farm had been big, but over time parts of it were sold off. Reg and Una tried a succession of things, from dairy farming and cereal crops to pigs and poultry, but were unable to counter a potentially fatal flaw: The shedding of acreage had made the property affordable but too small to be self-supporting. And so it was that on my eighth birthday, along with my first pair of roller skates, I got the devastating news that we to leave Old Farm.
Despite my dismay I settled for life in a more modern but considerably smaller house just outside Bristol. It was incomparable to my beloved Old Farm, but I’d already had considerable experience of dealing with drastic change.
The day I built a small fire in the chicken run Una watched furtively from the kitchen window. With her nervous disposition I imagine she found it hard not to intervene as I squat in the dirt beside my fire boiling water and broad-beans in a little saucepan. I was ten and the beans were at least as delicious as anything I’ve ever eaten. Neither did mum fuss at me the time she caught me in the pantry sipping vinegar straight from the bottle. I think now maybe she should have.
Like kids everywhere I had scars: Near the tip of my right pinky is one I got while riding the running-board of a seed-drill towed by our farm tractor. I stuck my hand into the seed hopper not knowing there was a worm-screw turning beneath the grain to move it through channels and fall into the furrowed dirt. Luckily it was just a small chunk of my finger that got planted with the wheat that day.
Scars on my left wrist and right knee came from losing control of my soap-box cart on Black Rock Lane. I must have been crazy to try riding down that hill. With my pal Buck… short for Bucket… real name Graham, I scavenged landfills for old pushchairs and prams-better known to some as strollers and baby carriages-and any decent wheels found got fixed to constructs of planks and crates. Some carts turned out really well, having brakes, steering and even suspension of sorts; these were the best ones, which usually got ‘accidentally’ run over in the driveway. I hated it when that happened and always suspected dad of benign treachery.
Serious introspection was beyond me then, and child psychology at the time did little to help me cope with emotional injury, despite Reg and Una’s untiring kindliness. Fractured logic had already created several wrong-headed notions in my mind and I began finding ways to ease my anxieties, albeit temporarily.
My earliest vice was chocolate, and it looks like I may bear that particular burden until my dying day. In fact I don’t see any possible after-life that doesn’t include chocolate as particularly attractive.
Latent effects of abandonment had me greedy for affection or anything similar, and girl playmates seemed to gleefully share my pre-pubescent interest. If that seems like a lame excuse for not dealing well with one of life’s most sensitive challenges so be it. That was then, and we’re all grown up now; but it brings me to my second vice.
Before and during my early teens I played impudently with girlfriends’ affections. Keeping my options open meant the safe-distancing of them from each other… a manageable but far from easy task, as any cheat can confirm. My weekday girls were in separate grades at school… one in my year and the other a year behind; but it was my Sunday girls who accompanied me down the road to shameless impropriety.
Christine and Heather were best-friends with no qualms about the three of us sharing each other’s company, but aside from some clumsy fumbling there were no overtly sexual shenanigans. Hormones were rampant nevertheless, making Sunday school coach trips to places of interest giddy times indeed. Christine’s older sister and I furtively shared some illicit groping, and everything seemed to be moving-right-along until the girls all found out about each other. From that point on things got ever more sketchy until they joined forces and dumped me en-mass.
Then there was alcohol. As with other addictions much has been written about its withering effect on individuals and society in general. It’s also been said that nobody sets out to become an alcoholic, though the zeal with which I’ve seen many people drink might seem to contradict that.
Music is of course not a vice per-se, though some might argue that rock ‘n roll comes close. Indeed my first electric guitar may have been instrumental in setting me on the road to total degeneracy. Its single pickup and control knobs were an integral part of the scratch plate with the amplifier cord hard-wired into it. Consequently it wasn’t long before I’d clumsily torn the electronics completely off the darned thing.
My second instrument was a solid-body guitar… and I mean solid, being little more than a lacquered plank with strings. On dark and stormy nights I would cycle for miles to a guitar teacher’s house, ‘the plank’ strapped across my back; and though the experiences may have improved my physique I can’t say the same for any musical ability. When a couple of fellow guitarists put a group together I was cajoled into being the drummer, so before long I again found myself cycling for miles on dark and stormy nights, but with a snare drum strapped on my back.
We were ‘Paddy and The Footpads’ and even managed to win a talent show at a shabby trailer-park on the outskirts of the city. We hit ‘em with Duane Eddy’s ‘Rebel Rouser’ and ‘Walk, Don’t Run’ by The Ventures, though some of the chords might have been somewhat ‘creative’. Years later I’d find myself doing sessions at the North Hollywood recording studio where The Ventures made their hits.
Across the road from my Bristol home lived a young chap who worked for the BBC. He had state-of-the-art hifi equipment and a pretty decent Premier drum set which he let me borrow for a while. In my room I’d stack four albums on my little record-player and play along with them: The classic ‘The Atomic Mr Basie’, ‘Pyramid’ by the Modern Jazz Quartet, ‘The Twang’s The Thang’ By Duane Eddy and The Rebels, and ‘Birth Of The Beat’ by Sandy Nelson. Years later I could still identify Sonny Payne’s, Connie Kay’s and Jimmy Troxel’s licks in my own playing…and of course the thud ‘n blunder of the one and only Sandy Nelson.
One day while bunking-off classes at Bristol’s College Of Commerce I was mesmerized by the sound coming from a music store of ‘Johnny Colville’s Red Dragons’ trying out an echo unit. The band had three regular guitars, no bass, and-before I talked my way into it-no drummer. We overheard something about another music store several blocks away having Fender guitars in the window. We ran there like crazy people and before long my new pals had impulsively signed away several subsequent paychecks for two fiesta red Stratocasters and a matching Precision Bass.
In a kids’ comic of the time was a space-alien character called ‘The Mekon’. He was blue, had a large, perfectly domed cranium and seemed to just float around. Dragons’ guitarist, the chain smoking Mervyn, was nicknamed ‘The Mekon’ because he possessed at least two of his namesake’s attributes. Merv was a shoo-in to be the bass player.
Whatever gigs we managed to find barely netted us enough cash to buy beer and cheap smokes, possibly because we spent more time at a sleazy billiard hall in deepest, darkest Bristol than we did rehearsing.
Within a decade I was drinking pretty heavily and smoking more weed than you could shake a stick at, until the anxiety attacks began and I quit. The amount of cocaine and other drugs I did was negligible, but I certainly loved to puff. At the height of London’s burgeoning drug culture in the sixties and seventies I repeatedly challenged fate by carrying my hashish and smoking paraphernalia in a cigar box while walking home from gigs to my flat in Lancaster Gate. In those days I dressed like a Barbary pirate; not exactly inconspicuous, but I never got rousted. Somewhat amazingly neither did I catch any kind of disease from my then squeeze, a South Kensington call-girl.